The authors give very practical ideas about how to talk to children in different situations in a respectful way that leads to problem solving with children rather than imposing solutions on them. It is full of examples and real life “frequently asked questions”. Faber and Mazlish had written: “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” that was mostly directed to parents and focused on home situations. This book is written for teachers and it deals with situations in school. The book gives alternatives to common adult’s responses. For example, instead of “criticizing” the authors suggest to “give information”. Their ideas support children building self-esteem, self-awareness, self-control and intrinsic motivation towards learning.
ALL TEACHERS and everyone that works with children or has children in their lives. This is a must read! Do not let the simple narrative style and the comics mislead you: this is a very serious and powerful resource. It has been truly life-changing for me.
Questions and themes to consider as you read:
- Try the alternative ways for responding to children as soon as possible. Do you notice a difference on how situations develop when you use Faber & Mazlish advice?
- What about your language seems difficult to change? Why?