How to Talk So Kids Can Learn by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

How to Talk So Kids Can Learn gives very practical ideas about how to talk to children in different situations in a respectful way that leads to problem-solving with children rather than imposing solutions on them. It is full of examples and real life “frequently asked questions.” In their prior work, Faber and Mazlish directed their counsel to parents and those focused on improving home situations. This book, however, is written for teachers and it deals with situations in school. The book gives alternatives to common adult’s responses. For example, instead of “criticizing” the authors suggest to “give information.” Their ideas support children building self-esteem, self-awareness, self-control and intrinsic motivation towards learning.

Recommended for:

ALL TEACHERS and everyone that works with children or have children in their lives. This is a must read! Do not let the simple narrative style and the comics mislead you: This is a very serious and powerful resource.

Questions and themes to consider as you read:

• Try alternative ways for responding to children as soon as possible. Do you notice a difference when you use Faber & Mazlish’s advice?
• What about your language seems difficult to change? Why?